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A Chore Chart that Works.

We have a chore chart that’s been successfully piloted and sustained for about 6 months.
A parent that has household chores to tackle, knows well the balance involved in “getting stuff done” while spending quality time, connected with the children in the family.
This chore chart fills the needs of a couple of daily family challenges.

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This is how our chore chart works:
I make a chart, 20 chore squares for each child.
Chores are chosen as a team, knowing the child is capable of completing tasks independently.
In the beginning the boys needed help learning how to accomplish the chores.

These are the chores we chose together.
1. take out garbage
2. take out compost
3. feed cats
4. wash the dinner table
5. empty clean utensils out of dishwasher
6. bring wood into the house for wood stove
7. help with cooking
8. switch out laundry machines
9. putting away their own laundry after I fold it
10 cleaning up toys after friends have come over to play

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When a chore is up for grabs (the dishwasher just finished a cycle and the utensils need to be put away) I offer the boys the chance to complete the chore to earn a sticker. They have the option to “work” and earn or turn the job down. They have to finish the job to earn the sticker. I check on their progress. If after taking out the garbage, they haven’t put a new bag in the garbage bin, I have the option of taking the sticker back. The boys get “paid” for said chores when the chart is full. They earn a toy within an established budget, usually $10-$20. They can earn money to save or they can choose a fun family activity, like ice skating or a trip to the movies.

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Sometimes the boys will eat all their veggies without having to be reminded, and they’ll ask, “Do I earn a chore sticker for that?” The answer is no. The boys don’t earn stickers for things they should be doing already: hygiene routines, being nice, eating healthy food, completing homework or cleaning up their messes.
The chores are specifically meant to help the family team with house chores.
Chores get done without it being one person’s burden.

…They offer a chance for kids to learn how to take care of the home
…they offer a chance for parent and child to work together accomplishing a task
…they help parent connect with child
…chores completed faster = more time to play a game, go for a walk, read a book together
…chores also give the children a chance to know what it is to want something and earn it

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My boys are 5 and 6. The chores and rules are tailored to who they are and what they are capable of developmentally, and with thought to their schedules and needs. For example, sometimes play is more important, so I will not offer a chore if I know they’ve been in school all day and are engrossed in a project. Young children would be given simpler tasks, like helping to fold a couple small towels and stickers may be enough of a reward. As the kids get older, I can see the chore chart growing with them. Maybe, the chores themselves change. The boys will be able to help more with more complicated jobs…helping with whole meals, doing dishes, mowing the lawn etc. Maybe, the chores become a required part of their routine.

There hasn’t been a lull in chore interest so far and the kids take pride in accomplishing their little jobs. I always make sure they know how much we appreciate their help and hard work.

Blueberry Picking and Cookies

We love going berry picking, through the heat and bugginess of the summer, nothing can stop us.
We make an effort to choose a simple farm that’s both organic and locally owned.
Often going overboard, we try to put all our berries to good use.

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Here’s a recipe from my Grandma Olga, fraternal, of French Canadian accent, loves her sweets and cooks with shortening. The cookies aren’t much, but I’ve been enjoying them since I was a little girl. The taste is more to me than flour and berry. This is the first time I cook them for my family, probably the first time the cookies are made with 100% whole wheat white flour and organic evaporated sugar cane sugar.

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The recipe on the card forgets to mention how to use the 3/4 cup of milk and the berries.
As you add the dry ingredients to the creamed sugar and shortening, alternate with milk.
When everything is mixed, fold in your berries.

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The cookie is scone-like in taste and texture. Traditionally, we top the cookies with a glaze made by mixing confectioners sugar and water, glazing cookies once they’ve cooled. I drizzle the sugar water over the cookies, my mom and grandmother use more. My mom likes to dip the cookie in the glaze. The way you glaze is to your taste.
To store the cookies, layer in a container with wax paper in between layers. Keep in the fridge.

Snow and Seeds

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The longer days has brought with it more outdoor play. There are puddles to play in, the sun is out, there is a foot of snow covering the grass after what might be the last Nor’Easter of the winter, allowing us still to do some sledding. You never know what the spring will bring in the North East of the United States. We’ve had a record breaking snow storm in April before, it could happen again. Yesterday was the first day of spring and we can feel spring everywhere.

Little J: The puddles in the driveway remind me of summer.
I heard a bird singing like it’s spring.

We open windows in the house and in the car on these warm days and can here the snow melting and trickling from everywhere, like it’s raining, but the sky is blue, the sun strong.

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It’s time to plant some seeds for this summer’s garden: tomato, broccoli, kale, peppers, carrots and beets.
We follow these instructions to plant our seeds indoors, using recycled egg cartons.

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finger paint and life/blogging crossroads

We’ve been trying to keep things light and simple around here lately. Life and schedules can quickly get complicated. I am guilty of being seduced by exiting plans/activities that make our days as thick as the very best peanut butter. Like the very best peanut butter, which is delicious, if you eat too much, too rich. Days become so tight, we lose free flow time. When this happens, we all get restless. There has to be a balance, and right now, for us, that means picking our most important activities and keeping time for chilling as a family.

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One way we’ve been keeping it simple is by choosing basic, open-ended activities, where there is no specific outcome, the activity unfolds as we go…a hike, a snowy hill, some dirt, paint etc. We like finger paint. We put out all the pots of color. The kids empty them with their fingers one by one, and smear the colors on paper, blending, scraping and filling the space.

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The pots are empty now. We hope to mix up a batch of homemade finger paint.

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Little J goes to Kindergarden full time this year, and we miss him terribly. We had him signed up for karate that met 2-3 times a week and swim lessons. This didn’t seem like much compared to my friends and their families, but it was too much for us. We sometimes, take care of other kids, I work 3 evenings a week and some Saturdays. We also try to fit in exercise, date nights and managing the house…laundry, cooking, cleaning. All this combined made us feel like we were in fast forward and increasingly estranged from one another. So, we dropped karate, I’m being careful to not over schedule us with extra kids and unfortunately, the blog has taken a hit. Stepping away from the computer during family time has been a great thing for us.
When I started blogging, I had 2 small children all day. They napped, I blogged. It was a creative outlet, a way to socialize, but now, I need to carve time out of my day to make it happen. I can’t always afford the time, especially when it involves keeping up with and learning a technology, managing its quirks. Sometimes, instead, I choose to run or take a yoga class or have a sit on the couch with my hubby, or joining my kids in their play without a camera or a bloggy agenda.

For now, my posts will be sporadic.
We’re still having lots of fun making messes and will share when it’s a good one.
Comment if you can relate.
Jena @ HappyLittleMesses

simple water play

The power of simple water play never gets old.

Whether you have the kids working in a process table, standing on a stool at the kitchen sink, the bathtub or the beach, there is a giant value to this activity.

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Water is a huge part of the human world. Playing and experimenting with water develops and builds relationship and comfort level with the basic element. Children are able to practice pouring and dumping, basic concepts of math and measurement.
The options for tools you use in the water are endless.
What stands out for me the most about open play with water is the story-telling that’s born from the interaction.

I add some dish soap to the bottom of a process table, add warm water in a shower spray to activate the bubbles. Here is a bit of dialogue I overhear as my 2 boys play in the water with cups, large spoons and medicine dispensers.

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“pretend this is bubble soup that you always wanted
i made it cause you wanted it for a whole day, such a long time
so i made it for you

I don’t want it, it’s too yucky
someone told me it was yucky

what about pineapple soup

no answer, kiki is focused on his own work.
this is chicken juice for me to make for a customer
this one is blueberry, i made it for myself

friend, i made some pineapple

sorry i already made blueberry
pretend i wanted to drink it for a whole week.
happy face, dump it back,
i already drinked it all

do you want me to make more

no

I’ll make more tomorrow.
pretend you the chef and I make the soup

this store is closing

mom, the store is closed now
time to rest up for tomorrow.

pretend all the customers are leavin’
pretending to lock up the doors of the kitchen.

cock a doodly doo
time to go back to the store.”

Winter Hike: a seasonal sensory experience

Having boys is like having puppies…you’ve GOT to take them for frequent walks, in all weather.

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Winter in New England can be long and cold.
Taking a walk outside can freeze you thoroughly and fast.
But if there is snow, it changes everything.
Taking a wintery hike is a seasonal sensory experience; crunchy, impressionable snow.

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Crunchy, brittle ice, some white, some clear, all of it slippery.
We don’t run or jump onto the ice because we fall hard.

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We’ve had some unusually warm days here, mixed with the regular NE weather, so there’s lots of ice and snow. We find the edge of a lake today, on our wintery walk, and break off pieces to throw onto the frozen lake. The thrown pieces of ice shatter like glass and slide across the slippery surface like they’ll never stop. This project, involving breaking ice, pulling it up and throwing it, keeps the boys employed for about an hour.

Writing Our Name for Valentines

Little K and I team up to construct his very first set of Valentines for his classmates.
We use a photo from his hammerin’ heartsies experience and mount them on a piece of red construction paper.

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I write “hammerin heartsies” on top.
He writes his name on the bottom.
He hasn’t ever really been asked to write his name, and he wasn’t so interested in doing it.
But a mom’s job sometimes, is to give a gentle nudge.
I gave him the schpeel…
“This a way to show your friends that you care, to put your special letters on this paper.”

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He wrote his name 20 times.
“This is taking 100 years!”

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These are some gentle ways to encourage this activity:
-Demonstrate how to hold the writing tool and how to write out the letters.
-Display the name. I folded a piece of paper that stood at the center of the table. We referred to it many times.
-Keep the project and supplies out so he can return to it at will.
-Add some other supplies that might act as comic relief, like stickers, cool markers and whole punchers.
-Spread the project out over a long period of time, working a little at a time to reach your goal.
-Be supportive by sitting with him/her while he/she works, so you can lend help when needed.
-Respond positively. Little K made a long line across the whole piece of paper as one of “K” parts. He started to look discouraged. I said, “Wow, that letter is so cool. It looked like a Rapunzel letter, it’s so long.”

Perler Bead Valentine

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Little J has decided that he would like to make a Perler Bead heart for each of his classmates.
He’s inspired by a little beaded heart my neice gave me for Christmas.
We set to work trying to figure out how to make one.
We fill a cookie cutter with beads and melt them, but they’re a little too fragile.
We end up buying a Perler mold, fit with tiny pegs for every little bed in the shape of a heart and set to work.
What you’ll need: a Perler bead mold of your choice, Perler Beads of course, an iron set on medium, wax paper, a steady hand and lots of time and patience.

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Setting 100+ beads in the mold is hard work, surgeon hard. I think it should be a required study for doctors studying to be surgeons to Perler bead. You need a very patient and steady hand We use tweezers when beads slip out of our fingers. The kids love this part…and this is a family affair. Everyone takes turns putting beads on the little plastic pegs that fill the mold.
The three year old put in a couple of beads and lost patients, attention when the bead fell off the pegs. He drifted off to play with cars leaving me to finish the heart on my own, no plea would get him to return.
The four year old lasted a little longer, but not much, could finish the heart with consistent adult help.
The five year old had just enough small motor skill and patience to make 1 heart a day…keep in mind he needs 20.
We started this project a month ago, with mom secretly making a heart on her own every now and then after the kids are tucked in for the night.
It takes a little over 6 minutes to make one heart.

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When all the beads are set in place, you sandwich the mold and beads behind a layer of wax paper, ironing the beads in small circular motions for about 10 seconds. If you iron for longer, the holes of the beads melt shut, which is kinda cool too. Don’t put your iron directly on the beads. Not a happy mess!

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We choose to keep the wholes in the beads so we can sting them. We hope people might hand the hearts in their windows.

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et voila

100 Days of School

The 100th Day of Kindergarden in upon us, and Little J is asked to “take 100 of anything that you can find around the house and arrange them together.”

Some examples that were given were:
-draw the number 100 on a piece of paper with 100 buttons or pennies
-an aquarium with 100 gold fish crackers
-build something with 100 popsicle sticks
-igloo created with 100 sugar cubes.

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After reading the instructions with Little J, I hold back my million ideas running around my head like kids on a spinning swing ride at a carnival. And on his own, he comes up with a simple, elegant and charming idea.
I find it difficult not to direct his projects and not to provide a solution to a problem that he hasn’t noticed for himself.
It was both challenging and freeing to give him the space and freedom to do this on his own steam.

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We’ve been working with Perle beads to create Valentines.
Naturally, he thought to use them for the 100 day project.
“We should count out 100 beads, and put them in a box. When you shake it, it will be like an instrument.”

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We make a number chart with 100 boxes and begin counting out beads.
We put the beads in the box and he shakes it almost spilling the box of beads.
He finds the Washi tape and closes the seam of the box.
He writes the number 100 on the top.

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As Little J steps out of the house this morning on the way to school, he expresses concern that others will not like his project and that they might laugh. I told him that it matters more that he loves his project. It’s the sound of 100 beads, how cool is that!

Here are 3 books we’ve taken out of the library that are about 100 days of school:
100 days

Paper Hearts, Chalk and Boys

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I wrap up our table in butcher paper,
trace hearts all over the paper using a cardboard heart template and black sharpie,
take out artist chalks,
and let the boys decide how to take it from there.
These boys are young enough still, that they aren’t embarrassed to work on hearts.

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We talk about how colors “match,” talk about smudging and blending colors.
The boys draw in between the hearts like a maze.
They practice coloring inside the lines.

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We plan to cut out each individual heart and use them as a background to the boys’ valentines, or “clementines,” as Little K likes to call them.

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